I like what @lolafkok said here, if this is multiple pods / servers etc, it’s better to keep it in one place with strapi.
Else you would need to make a multi tenancy, (I did make a plugin for V3 but never finished to release it) and it’s not updated to V4. But the idea is to have a internal API that just forwards the request on the different events like update, create delete. And the next one does the same thing.
Though as @lolafkok did suggest that is a great solution on how to keep it consitent.